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Friday, May 29, 2015

CTC Night! (At Home) -- With Your Fingers

Continue - The - Courtship Night doesn't have to be just on Friday. You are allowed to have it any day and time of the week you both plan to spend 2 - 4 hours alone together.

This weeks idea:

When was the last time you did finger painting. If you have elementary school age kids, you may already have the supplies. Otherwise, they are very cheap to obtain.

You just need some finger paint and paper. If you want to spice things up and incorporate it into your sacred sexual time, body paints are available too.

If you'd like to make your own, here is a how to video. If you want to use it for sacred sexy time, you can substitute salt for sugar and use extracts (Bannana, Cherry, Peppermint, Coconut, etc...) to flavor them up.

Sorry for the kiddie music. You can just turn the volume off.

Happy Dating!

Friday, May 22, 2015

CTC Night (At Home) -- FLOAT

HAPPY CONTINUE-THE-COURTSHIP NIGHT to all you married lovers out there!
Okay, this ones not free, but it's not too expensive, and it's fun.

Make home made root beer floats together.

Here's the recipe:
3/4 cup and 3 tablespoons white sugar (You can substitute Stevia if you want to go sugar free)
8-1/3 cups cold water
1/8 (2 ounce) bottle root beer extract
4 pounds dry ice


This recipe's Ingredients were scaled to yield a new amount. The directions below still refer to the original recipe yield of 4 gallons.

This recipe serves 10 and makes about a quart.

In a large cooler, mix together the sugar and water, stirring to dissolve sugar completely. Stir in the root beer extract. Carefully place the dry ice into the cooler, and cover loosely with the lid. Do not secure the lid, as pressure may build up.

Let the mixture brew for about an hour before serving. Leftover root beer can be stored in one gallon milk jugs.
Serve with your favorite ice cream.

Here is a question to help get the conversation going. "What do you imagine to be the perfect date and why?"

Happy Dating!

Friday, May 15, 2015

CTC Night (At Home) - Low Tech

LDS sex therapist Laura M. Brotherson frequently stresses that on date night we should shut off and leave all electronics behind.

I have also learned that 90% of being a good lover is having good communication skills. 10% is technique.

And, 80% of good communication is listening.

For tonight's continue-the-courtship-night idea (if you find yourselves unable to leave home), try this fun exercise.

Make a can and string phone. You can be as engineering (metal can, high tensile fishing line, button), or low tech (yarn and foam cup) as you want.

Put the electronics (phones, cell phones, tablets, PC, TV etc... - YES,electronic sex toys are okay!) off and away.

Go to opposite sides of the room and practice listening. Take turns. Say whatever you want. Whisper sweet nothings. Say sacred erotic things to each other. By your new phone, give each other permission to handle your body a certain way. Use your imagination.

Happy Dating!

Friday, May 8, 2015

CTC Night (At Home) -- ROLE R3V3RSAL

HAPPY CONTINUE - THE - COURTSHIP NIGHT! What an exciting time to be married.

This date idea is definitely one of my favorites for intimacy, marital team building, and practicing good communication skills in the bedroom. I do not recommend this date idea if you are having significant communication challenges in your marriage. Those need to be resolved before attempting this date idea.


Tonight (after you put the kids to bed early) the spouse with the lower sex drive will take on the role of the initiator.

Try something different and imitate your higher-sex-drive spouse (not in a mean way, but in a fun loving way). Show your spouse how they behave to you when they initiate sex and then show them how you would like to be approached and warmed up for sex.

To the higher-sex-drive spouse, take on the role of your lower-sex drive eternal companion. Show them how they behave when you try to approach them and then show them how you would like to be approached.

Thoughtfully take the time to discuss what you are experiencing and stop to carefully listen and try to understand the other. Restate back what was said to be sure your interpretation is what they actually meant. Agree not to make fun of the other spouse. Respect their viewpoint and try to understand.

Practice hugging each other until you can both relax into each other's arms. This helps build personal self-esteem, develops trust and self-confidence. When you can obtain this, it can lead to the best sex of your life.

Happy Dating!