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Monday, February 23, 2015

Continue-The-Courtship Night (At Home) -- Naked Volleyball

Continue - The - Courtship Night has finally arrived!

Can't afford or find a sitter? For your totally free stuck - at - home date I have 3 words
" Naked. Balloon. Volleyball." 

Ready? Set? GO! If you have body issues, now is your opportunity to help each other overcome them. 

Happy Dating!


Friday, February 13, 2015

Continue - The - Courtship Night (At Home) -- A Walkening

Hello all you married lovers out there.

This stuck at home –because-of-small-children- date idea is courtesy of Redbook.


Pick out your favorite park, High School track or just walk your neighborhood. Put the babies in a stroller and walk. For a little extra privacy (so you can freely talk) put some headphones on the kids with their favorite music.

It’s good exercise, gets you some fresh air and allows time for some open talking and touching.

BUT, before you go...

According to a straw poll, 70% of couples end a date with a romp in the sack. Some couples recommend that having sex before the date begins helps the couple to “ease into date mode.”

You don’t have to do it every time, but making love beforehand takes the pressure off and allows you to focus on the pleasure of being together. For a guy especially, it takes the stress off of whether he’ll get sex or not.

Making love beforehand releases endorphins and oxytocin that allows the husband to relax, improves his mood and may help him be more focused on making his wife feel good. It also makes him more open to talking and sharing his feelings.

According to Redbook “when you’ve made the sex connection, you’re more physically receptive to each other during your date. Take advantage of this heightened awareness with little touches – caressing each other’s fingers, stealing unexpected kisses, and rubbing shoulders or linking arms as you walk together – to keep you bonded”

Happy Dating!


Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Can Your Marriage Pass The Courtship Test?

I had to share this experience relayed by Greg Olson. May it warm your heart and inspire your marriage.

Thank You Greg!

"Let me share some sage advice I got from a patient several years ago. She and her husband were at the clinic on their 75th anniversary (he was 95 and she was 94 years old). He walked her down the hall, holding onto her like she was the most important person in his world and helped her up onto the exam table. 

He told her that he would be right next door and to “holler” if she needed anything. He was the consummate gentleman and his love was conveyed through every touch, word, and tone. She was a lady of grace who was accustomed to being treated well by the man who loved her. When I entered the room she said, “Wish me a Happy 75th doctor! I’m here for my one year checkup.” I knew that she knew something, and I wanted to know what it was.

I asked her the secret for happiness and longevity and she gave me a classic reply, “Alzheimer’s” she said with a chuckle. “You need to know what to remember and what to forget. Don’t hold on to ammunition from an old argument to fire at your husband during the next one.” So, I interpreted that to mean that I should not be keeping score. 

 Her next point was that two people should go into marriage with both eyes wide open, and then after the vows they should close one eye tight, squint with the other and quit focusing on faults. I took that to mean that I could choose to look for the strengths or the weaknesses and that my choice should be to see the good and help my wife be stronger---she was making waaaay too much sense. 

Finally she said, “Do you court your wife doctor?” to which I replied, “Yah, sorta, we go to dinner sometimes.” She said, “That is not courtin’!” She asked me what kind of things I had done to demonstrate to my wife how I truly felt about her and why I wanted to build a life with her. 

I could see that her point was that a healthy marriage needed just as much energy, effort, and attention to maintain it as it did to create it in the first place. “My husband has asked me out on a date for every Friday night for 75 years, except for 1943, 1944, and 1945. 

Do you know why he didn’t ask me out then?” she asked. I told her that he must have been in the military during WWII. “That’s right, he was overseas. He wrote me a letter every day that he was gone---every day.” “If you don’t keep courtin’ your wife she will take you to court.” From her practiced tone it was evident that she had given this advice before. 

I share this not because I do each of these things perfectly, but because I am still applying what she told me twenty years ago. Every so often I stop and reevaluate how I am doing on my end of the marriage. I always come up with things that I want to do better. 

That is a great secret that needs to be shared. It is not what I am getting from my marriage, it is what I am putting into it that makes me happy, or sad, or dissatisfied. I can only work on my 100%. There are always challenges, problems, irritants, and issues to be resolved, but my gift to the woman I love is to improve myself for her. She has always done the same. 

We are happy in our marriage because love requires work and lots of effort to thrive and we are willing to do it. We have also found it helpful to forgive each other more quickly and move forward more steadily. When I am 95 I want my wife to look at me the way my patient looked at her husband. I better hurry up and ask her on a date this week!"

~ Greg Olson, 2015,1 

Friday, February 6, 2015

CTC NIGHT (At Home) -- Games Lovers Play


If you're here, it's probably because you have small children, are on a tight budget,  stuck at home for some reason, or just plain ran out of ideas. 

You are the ones I write these date ideas for, because you really care about your marriage and are willing to do what it takes to make it one that will withstand the test of eternity

Here are four sexy, fun game ideas (that I would only recommend to married couples) - courtesy of

1. Truth or Dare
Write out five dares -- anything from trying on a sexy outfit to a silly stunt -- on separate pieces of paper. Place them in a bowl. Now take turns asking each other naughty questions, such as, "What's the most unusual place you've ever wanted to have sex?" If you don't answer, dip into the pot and select a dare.

2. Forfeit
Bring treats into the bedroom that have small, easy-to-write-with nozzles, like frosting, chocolate sauce, and whipped cream. Write a sexy word on your partner's body. If they guess the word correctly, they get a small taste of the treat. If they guess wrong, they pay a forfeit by swapping places with you. 

3. Wish List
You both think of three intimate things you've always wanted to try and then write them down on separate pieces of paper. Fold them (marked with your initials) and mix 'em up. Take turns drawing out one of the other's wishes, agreeing in advance to at least give it a try.

4. What Is It?
Your partner lies down blindfolded. You lubricate different parts of your body -- fingers, chin, tip of the nose, chest, and so on. You then touch your partner in various places. They have to guess which body part it is. If they guess correctly, you perform an act with that body part that only pleases them.

Happy Dating!