I hope all you married lovers out there will take this prescription to making your marriage great!
Dating is a habit like saving for retirement - it will provide you with
wonderful memories to look back on later. It will protect you when the
hard times come. Don't save money and food, and not invest in your treasure in heaven - your marriage.
Tonight, it's her turn to choose, and here's a great idea if you find yourself stumped:
Sit and talk.
Remember when you were first dating, and you could talk for hours over
everything? or even...nothing?
That gets harder to do as the infatuation state of limerance
wears off, but it's a good habit to get into (and stay in) when you're
Schedule a set amount of time - at least fifteen
minutes of your two-four hour block for a date, if you're new to this. Find a distraction for or reschedule of all of your precious distractions and interruptions. Lock yourselves in a room
if you have to.
Brothers, act as if your wife is the center of the universe for that fifteen minutes.
Avoid shifting the topic to your issues, and don't watch the clock -
just let her talk. Ask questions that draw her out. "How did you feel
about that?" "What else happened?"
If she mentions problems,
DO NOT try to solve her problems, unless she asks for your advice.
Just...listen. Hold her hand. Give her a hug and a kiss when she's done.
(Hint: Men who listen to women are a major turn-on. Don't go into it to get lucky, but you never know what might happen...)