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Friday, October 31, 2014

Happy Continue - The - Courtship Night --- All Saints Day Eve

It's hard to pick just one idea for a Halloween Date - because there are SO many.

It's a night for the kids, but that doesn't mean there can't be some Mama and Papa time in there too.

All Saints Day Eve is a perfect time for some fantasy and role play in the bedroom - because there are some fun costume ideas all around you and many are very cheap, and many of them are probably only appropriate for a married couple's bedroom anyway. 

Wearing them to a costume party would be provocative and profane YES! But, a husband and wife wearing them (in the bedroom) to arouse each other is sacred erotica and a sacred wholesome activity!  Reclaim that birthright from the world.

fishnet stockings
Buttless chaps
Cowboy/Cowgirl costumes
Shepherd boy/girl costumes
French maid

Write your own fantasy and playing out together, or make it up as you go along. Be hammy and make it fun.

Here are 50 more wholesome Halloween date ideas from the dating divas: Happy Dating!

Friday, October 24, 2014

Continue - The -Courtship Night (At Home) --- FALL In Love

Happy Contiue - The - Courtship Night everyone! 

I love the fall. The weather is cooler. Allergens are down, the bugs are starting to go away, and Mother Nature is changing into her most festive gowns. What a great time to get outside and be a part of it together.

Fall also usually means that the leaves are falling in your yard, but oh, what an opportunity!

For this totally free stuck-at-home date night idea, MAKE PILES OF LEAVES AND JUMP IN THEM!

A great fall activity for anyone. If you don’t have a yard of your own borrow the park's leaves and go make piles there.

In addition, working in the yard together is great exercise and facilitates pleasant conversations. Working up a sweat together also releases endorphins and testosterone into the bloodstream for both sexes.  These chemicals are what kick up the mood to engage in more intimate activities.

Happy Dating!

Monday, October 20, 2014

LDS Doctrine or Cultural Myth: Mormons Don’t Make Love Naked

You may have heard the stories. I’ve heard several.

 For example, the brother who claims that there is never a reason to take off the temple garment and all of his children were conceived while wearing them. The sister who was so unsure about when it was appropriate to take off the garment that she never took them off and even bathed in them. I also heard one story of a temple matron who was teaching that the garment must be touching the skin at all times and nothing should be worn underneath the garment.

The Lord Jesus Christ taught us that we should be living by the spirit of the law and not do as the Pharisees do with the doctrine by looking for a letter of the law in every little detail, while ignoring the purpose of the doctrine. (Matthew 23:23-24 )

I believe this also applies to the wearing of our sacred garments. When it comes to making love to our spouse, I have found nothing that supports the belief that we should never take them off. What I have found is instruction that there are times when it is inappropriate to wear them.
Endowed members should wear the temple garment both day and night. They should not remove it, either entirely or partially, to work in the yard or for other activities that can reasonably be done with the garment worn properly beneath the clothing. Nor should they remove it to lounge around the home in swimwear or immodest clothing. When they must remove the garment, such as for swimming, they should put it back on as soon as possible.
Members should not adjust the garment or wear it contrary to instructions in order to accommodate different styles of clothing. Nor should they alter the garment from its authorized design. When two-piece garments are used, both pieces should always be worn. The garment is sacred and should be treated with respect at all times…”
(Handbook 2:Administering the Church, 2014,  21.1.42)
 I was unable to see anything in this that suggests it is inappropriate to take the garment off while sexually intimate with our spouse. For the full bonding experience of sexual intimacy to take place, there must be skin to skin contact. This allows ions to be exchanged and chemical receptors to be activated. Always having something between you, I believe, allows a physical and psychological barrier that impedes complete mental, emotional, physical and spiritual connection. In this, I find sexual intimacy classifies as an "inappropriate" time to wear the garment.

For this purpose, I have to put “myth” on the belief that we as married Saints are not allowed to take the garment off while having sex with our spouse. The only caveat with this I see is that the garment should be "put back on as soon as possible". Because circumstances vary, a spirit - of - the - law provision is built in. We have some flexibility to decide when to put it back on, but also should keep in mind that it has nothing to do with the material garment itself. The garment is only a reminder of the deeper covenant we have made with the Lord.

We wear it and keep it on because we love the Lord and respect the promises contained in our covenants. We keep in mind that those covenants also help enable us to keep the spouse we proclaim to love and want to keep for eternity. It would do our marriage a disservice to focus it all on sexually pleasing our spouse while at the same time ignoring our covenants with God. But, as we say "let the Holy Spirit guide." After a love making session, he's our best gauge of when it's time to put them back on.

To help quell any concerns about the appropriateness of discussing this sacred topic regarding the garment, I hope those with concerns will note that the directions for how the temple garment should be worn is posted by the church online for all to read: ( )

The Church has also posted this video that openly discusses and shows the sacred temple garment in an effort to also help dispel any myths or concerns outsiders have about our faith. It is also done in the hopes of dispelling prejudice toward our faith through education. The video can be seen below or on YouTube.

I will accept any honest questions, but ask that all be respectful with addressing this sacred topic. Disrespectful comments will be deleted.

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Continue - The - Courtship Night (At Home!) --- PIG SKIN


Okay all you married lovers out there, it's his turn tonight. Here is your (well it might cost a little to get the meat and supplies) stuck at home BYHSC date idea.

Fall is in the air and what does fall mean? PIG SKIN!
Two great loves of many men is football and really good barbeque. Well, this time - it's barbeque.

Every guy knows that good barbeque takes a long time - if it's done right, and standing by the smoker can get pretty lonely. So wives, for this date, help him get the pork together, he can start up the smoker, break out some chairs and spend some quality time together while he makes you the best barbecue you've had all year.

This would be a good time to break out the "365 Questions For Couples", the guitar, or just cuddle in the cool smokey October air and watch Mother Nature change her gown from green to gold.

Happy Dating!

Friday, October 10, 2014

Continue - The - Courtship Night (At Home) -- Get Into Position

Good flexibility can greatly enhance the comfort and pleasure of your marital love making.

Here's your stuck at home, can't get a sitter or because it's too cold outside date idea:

Get a yoga video and do some yoga together. If you already have one, break it out and take an hour to do it together. If you have never done it before, be sure to pick up yoga instruction for beginners. I recommend Rodney Yee's Yoga For Beginners.

Have a very flexible date night!

Friday, October 3, 2014

Continue - The - Courtship Night (At Home) -- Take It To The Roof

Alright all you married lovers out there! Are you ready for another great Continue-The-Courtship night?

Here's your totally free at home date night idea:

This one might be too early to put the kids to bed, but you can put on some entertainment and snacks for them and a baby monitor works great for keeping an eye/ear on them.

Sit on the roof and watch the sunset together. To add some extra fun, bring your portable radio and play your favorite songs from high school.

Happy Dating!