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Thursday, December 29, 2011

Good lovemaking tip

Recently, Ellen DeGeneres made fun of a couple who had saved their virginity and their first kiss for when they got married. Yes it sucked, but whose first time doesn't - besides, they have all eternity to perfect it. Right? 
For you husbands: for many women, when they think of sex, they think of kissing. While learning to improve your skills in bed, be sure to make kissing one of them. Here is a video clip from Howcast with some good tips. how to kiss passionately

3 comments:

jana said...

I'm curious where you got your statistic that "for many women, when they think of sex, they think of kissing"? I've never heard any women I know say this.

CoachSam said...

Hi Jana,

Thank you for your question. This may be a misunderstanding of what I was trying to explain.

In this circumstance, I was speaking to husbands. Were I addressing wives I would have said "When women think of activities that arouse them to want sex, they usually think of kissing, cuddling, and talking romantically."

When men think of getting turned on, they don't think about kissing. They think about stroking genitals and penetrating their wife with their penis.

This is a fundamental difference between men and women in their communication styles when referring to sex or arousal.

The point I was trying to teach was that the men need to be aware of this difference when they attempt to arouse their wives to sex.

Also, when I said that statement about kissing, it was not from any one statistic. It was based on a group of research.

I hope this helps answer your question. Please let me know if it doesn't.

For more complete documentation on this point, please refer to my articles "My Porn is Okay, Your Porn Is Not Okay - Avoiding The Double Standard" and "Conquering Gender Prejudice In Marriage: Avoiding the Double Standard Part III"

Strong Man said...

Kissing is great and very important. And, I find it's most enjoyable when you have positive feelings about your partner in general.

It's good to do this for at least several seconds.